Dated 14th Feb. 2009
Friends first of all I would like to apologize for a misleading title for this post. It is not about the critique of the recently released Bollywood flick Dev D but it’s about the issue of break ups and its aftermath. But friends it’s not just another agony aunt post but about my observations on the vicious circle of break-ups and the emosonal attyachar involved…
Love as we all know is the most amazing emotion a person experience in his/her life. It’s the most beautiful bond that binds two persons. It teaches us about sharing and caring for each other. It completes a person and gives him/her a sense of belonging. If it is blissful to be in love it is equally devastating to be left heart broken. After all it’s very difficult to fill the void that is created when the person whom you love and trust left/ditch/dump you. Whatever could be the reason behind the break up; it’s always agonizing to be left alone after a brief blissful period of togetherness.
A break up not only shatters one’s heart but also hurts one’s ego. This is especially true for the guys. That’s why they are relatively at disadvantage as compared to the fairer sex and takes more time to recover from it. After all break up in principle is a setback, the only thing that makes it difficult to over come, is our emotions attached with it. The easily we let it go the earliest we can recover from it. If love provides us with the positive energy of life, the emotional turmoil followed by breakup causes negative emotion/energy that further aggravates one’s suffering. Dev Das's end in the Sarat Chandra's novel is the manifestation of the same negative emotion. One should first learn to accept the setback and then only he/she would be able to channelize this negative energy to one's use.
Dated 26th Feb. 2009
Its 4 am in the morning and it’s been 4 hrs since I have finished watching Dev D, boy what a movie it was.. such was the influence of it that I am still wandering the bylanes of my memory, sometime reliving the pain and sorrow and sometime laughing at my naivety. Yes I was able to identify with the Dev D’s character. But now I just want to praise the work of Anurag Kashayp. Some people may not like the audacity of the characters and the ‘on your face’ kind of dialogs. But all these things made the story more gripping. Apart from the strong performances of the actors I believe the real hero of the movie was its music which is beautifully intertwined with the story. Such is the effect of the music that you will be lost in the flow of the story and will come back only when show ends.
8 comments:
hmmmm break upppppppp.... i agree that it hurts a lot but i dnt think so that it hurts a guy more!!
agree with megha :)
a breakup affects those, who let it affect them, the most.
anyways there's always a happy ending in most stories and we should look forward to that :)
see how actors/actresses seem to move on in a jiffy :p
i have no one to watch dev d with *boo hooo*
anyways, wen do u plan to come to hyd? we cannot guarantee late nights but we will ensure u have nuff fun :)
yeah.. true.. break up is a major set back and a lot of emotional melodrama...but categorizing it based on sex is not fair... some might just take a while to get out of it.. and some might take longer... depends on the individual.. isnt it?? but u seem to be taken by Dev D... yet to watch the movie...
Hey MAN! I believe in tie ups not breakup and as I am outside India as of now so could not get a chance to see DEV D.
So I comment 'No Comments'
O Ya Megha I partly disagree with you and partly agree with Mohit. Guys out here hardly get a chance to get into a relationship however girls can expect a new one at the next crossing ;)
The problem with boys and specially Indian ones, is that 'getting a girl' is an egotistical affair. The only guys who do the whole rona-dhona drame bazi are those who are too emotionally immature to manage it. That's why it looks cute if a teenager does it, but sick if a 25+ year old does it.
The only thing that can be said is, grow up!! The root of course lies in the very strict upbringing that most kids have, where hanging out with the girls is frowned upon. So the guys grow up with sneaking perspectives about their own sexuality and then the girl becomes like a goddess to them. (I personally favor the term 'hoor ki pari').
Add movies to this mix. Hindi movies dont feature guys that get rejected and stay rejected. The lead lukkha (using some of the most sick cheese) always manages to get the girl to fall in love with him. Unconditionally. (Would a girl fall in love with a guy who goes, 'ai, aati kya khandala?'??).
That way, the Indian guys get absolutely set up to NOT handle rejection at all. For them, if they cannot get accepted by the first girl they 'propose' to, then that's the end of their love life. And their masculine ego, 'mardangi', is trashed along the process. The regular ones cry in the closet, and the irregular ones go psycho. (Blank calls? Love letters? khoon ki chithiyan?) wtf!?!
The fun thing is, its not the guys only. I knew a girl, who never told me through the school that she even liked me, and suddenly I get this 'mujhe maloom hai tum mujhse pyaar kabhi nahin kar sakte ho, par mai tum se aajeevan prem karoongi..'etcetc on the last day of school. What utter bs!! Well, we were, like, 17, so no harm done. But I have the sneaking suspicion that such behavior continues past teenage.
The point is, 'ahem pe mat le yaar'. If you like a girl/guy/etc, tell them on their face. If they say they don't want to see you, that's fine. No big deal. At least you tried, at least they know. Turn that page, close that book. And grow up. Getting a girl is one thing, and keeping her or wanting to keep her, another.
Thanks Siddharth, for elaborating.. :P
Ok!this is an eye-opener for me,a guy's take on break up and more so, how much more it hurts them;-)my advice would be to grow up and be a man:)
yes its true that breakups doesn't affect a man but it severely affects guys (teenagers specifically).. :P
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